I have requested it from the library. I think I confuse the librarians sometimes.
Ooh, very nice. Tell me how the movie goes. That's alright. I don't even know my local librarian.
Alright I will! Since I moved to where I live 5 years ago, I have gotten to know them pretty well. Except one of them retired and there's a new librarian. I used to get 40 books from the library at a time in 8th grade (don't try to reread all of the Baby Sitters Club) and would spend hours there in the summer.
I don't have a quote to share, but this time I need some quotes/life advice, and I figured with all the cool and inspiring things people share here this seemed like a good place to ask, and I'm sure some of you have some great input on it.
I'll be honest, for a long time I've actually lost quite a lot of joy that I used to have after things in life got busier, or things in life didn't go as expected, and it's drained that joy. I know this is a side of me I don't usually share, but I think it'd be good for me to be a little vulnerable in this aspect.
I guess, here's my thing I'd like help on, What is the best advice you have and/or the best advice someone has given to you on finding joy that you've lost? I'm not gonna lie, I've been struggling with that recently, and I'd like your help.
Thanks everyone. I look forward to your input.
I often hear the advice, "When you're particularly struggling, just count all the blessings of the moment!" This may work for some people, but it's never worked for me. It always feel inauthentic and as if you're lying to yourself. What I would say to do is, at fairly random, inopportune moments, just take a few seconds to think of something you're honestly and legitimately thankful for. It can be something major like family or a roof to stay under, or maybe even something completely mundane like an eraser. Just a brief, honest consideration of "Hey, I like that eraser. When I write a mistake, I can just smudge it out pretty efficiently. I'm happy to have it." When you spend more time focusing on the things you like, your mentality is more likely to change and you may find yourself being happier with everything else. The most important part for me is just being honest about it. Forcing yourself to say "I'm so happy with everything in my life" the moment you're most crushed just feels like a lie. (That said, it's also important not to go the other direction and get angry at yourself every time you think of something negative. I'm still working on that.) Something else that helps is just to do something. Setting up personal tasks and goals, even if just for a hobby, gives your life value and accomplishment you wouldn't have otherwise. Even when not something valuable, it helps to be doing some kind of activity, even if it's just playing video games or listening to music. I know if I have too much time to just sit around and think, I'm more likely to turn to depression and existentialism. TL;DR, think of random things you're thankful for and find something to do.
I don't have a quote to share, but this time I need some quotes/life advice, and I figured with all the cool and inspiring things people share here this seemed like a good place to ask, and I'm sure some of you have some great input on it.
I'll be honest, for a long time I've actually lost quite a lot of joy that I used to have after things in life got busier, or things in life didn't go as expected, and it's drained that joy. I know this is a side of me I don't usually share, but I think it'd be good for me to be a little vulnerable in this aspect.
I guess, here's my thing I'd like help on, What is the best advice you have and/or the best advice someone has given to you on finding joy that you've lost? I'm not gonna lie, I've been struggling with that recently, and I'd like your help.
Thanks everyone. I look forward to your input.
I've found that being real and telling people on this site how you're actually feeling is really rewarding. It gains trust and I'm much closer to the people I've opened up to. I have no regrets doing so.
I think I get what you're talking about. Last year was a nightmare for me. I think the others have summed it up pretty well, but I'll try to add what I can that hasn't been said yet. Something I've been learning is that it's not really fair to compare who you currently are with how you may have been in the past. You've been through stuff that your past self didn't go through, you have different experience and stuff you now know. I don't think anyone excepts a soldier to come back exactly the same after a war. Although this is less extreme, I think it could be similar to that. Also, just thinking less about yourself and more about the big picture really helps. Like the quote Tigress used to have on her signature that went something like " don't think less of yourself, just think of yourself less." Thinking of others or other things really helps with that. ( So long as they are not related to any problems of your's. ) Other then that it really depends on where your lack of joy is coming from. If it's nothing really in particular and you're just drained maybe it'll just take some time to get through this season?
It was one of the Phantoka or Mistika comics, I think. Yep. Ah, I see, just as a gift I guess. Awesome. I should sign up for the catalogs again. I'd sign up for the LEGO Life magazine, and I'm sure the content is good, but I'm definitely way too old.
Yeah! Phantoka maybe. Yup, which was crazy-awesome. They still have LEGO Magazine over there? Or is it Life now? Ah yeah, I forgot the age limit.
Probably. That sounds about right. It's just the LEGO Life Magazines now. Well, you could still sign up if you wanted to just by not telling them you're an adult.
Ooh, very nice. Tell me how the movie goes. That's alright. I don't even know my local librarian.
Alright I will! Since I moved to where I live 5 years ago, I have gotten to know them pretty well. Except one of them retired and there's a new librarian. I used to get 40 books from the library at a time in 8th grade (don't try to reread all of the Baby Sitters Club) and would spend hours there in the summer.
Awesome. Wow, that's pretty cool that you're close with the librarian, even though they switch out sometimes. Oh my goodness. That's the most books I've ever heard of checked out of a library in one trip. I can't even finish one book. (I won't. )
I don't have a quote to share, but this time I need some quotes/life advice, and I figured with all the cool and inspiring things people share here this seemed like a good place to ask, and I'm sure some of you have some great input on it.
I'll be honest, for a long time I've actually lost quite a lot of joy that I used to have after things in life got busier, or things in life didn't go as expected, and it's drained that joy. I know this is a side of me I don't usually share, but I think it'd be good for me to be a little vulnerable in this aspect.
I guess, here's my thing I'd like help on, What is the best advice you have and/or the best advice someone has given to you on finding joy that you've lost? I'm not gonna lie, I've been struggling with that recently, and I'd like your help.
Thanks everyone. I look forward to your input.
“Hehehehhh, just you wait. Some of the best days of your life haven’t even happened yet so you gotta keep your chin up!” ~ Aya Takayashiki (After School Dice Club)
I'm pretty experienced with grim existence, but hope is immortal. There's usually at least one unique reason for someone's joy growing jaded, be it something or something caused by someone. What I do when faced with tough situations is to, once I've worked out the emotional surge, trace things back to the root and weed my life's garden of whatever seems to ail me. Only then can you adjust life in accordance to what is necessary to regain a healthy and flourishing state of being. It may involve loss, but as my awesome priest once included in a homily: “If there is no grief to hollow out a heart, then there can be no room for joy.” And that stuck with me. A supremely comforting thought is that it's in the LORD's plan to help you through these hardships, to turn these trials into a flame that will refine your soul into something greater than all that assails you.
I hope can help in some way.
I'll definitely keep my chin up. There's still a lot I can look forward to.
That makes a lot of sense. Removing out all of the bad things is important, even though sometimes it's hard to let go. Ooh, what your priest said is probably going to stick with me as well. I can definitely agree with that and I'll definitely see what I can do to change my heart around.
I don't have a quote to share, but this time I need some quotes/life advice, and I figured with all the cool and inspiring things people share here this seemed like a good place to ask, and I'm sure some of you have some great input on it.
I'll be honest, for a long time I've actually lost quite a lot of joy that I used to have after things in life got busier, or things in life didn't go as expected, and it's drained that joy. I know this is a side of me I don't usually share, but I think it'd be good for me to be a little vulnerable in this aspect.
I guess, here's my thing I'd like help on, What is the best advice you have and/or the best advice someone has given to you on finding joy that you've lost? I'm not gonna lie, I've been struggling with that recently, and I'd like your help.
Thanks everyone. I look forward to your input.
I often hear the advice, "When you're particularly struggling, just count all the blessings of the moment!" This may work for some people, but it's never worked for me. It always feel inauthentic and as if you're lying to yourself. What I would say to do is, at fairly random, inopportune moments, just take a few seconds to think of something you're honestly and legitimately thankful for. It can be something major like family or a roof to stay under, or maybe even something completely mundane like an eraser. Just a brief, honest consideration of "Hey, I like that eraser. When I write a mistake, I can just smudge it out pretty efficiently. I'm happy to have it." When you spend more time focusing on the things you like, your mentality is more likely to change and you may find yourself being happier with everything else. The most important part for me is just being honest about it. Forcing yourself to say "I'm so happy with everything in my life" the moment you're most crushed just feels like a lie. (That said, it's also important not to go the other direction and get angry at yourself every time you think of something negative. I'm still working on that.) Something else that helps is just to do something. Setting up personal tasks and goals, even if just for a hobby, gives your life value and accomplishment you wouldn't have otherwise. Even when not something valuable, it helps to be doing some kind of activity, even if it's just playing video games or listening to music. I know if I have too much time to just sit around and think, I'm more likely to turn to depression and existentialism. TL;DR, think of random things you're thankful for and find something to do.
That is very well thought out, Mock. I like the idea of counting blessings too, and reminding me of the good things I have to be grateful for and that there are still good things I can have in the future to look forward to. I also agree it's important to be honest and real about these emotions as well because hiding it is only going to hurt more. (Oh yeah, I still struggle with that as well. )
Doing something else is definitely helpful for me. I may not have much in graduate school, but I do have things I can do to pass the time and relax.
I don't have a quote to share, but this time I need some quotes/life advice, and I figured with all the cool and inspiring things people share here this seemed like a good place to ask, and I'm sure some of you have some great input on it.
I'll be honest, for a long time I've actually lost quite a lot of joy that I used to have after things in life got busier, or things in life didn't go as expected, and it's drained that joy. I know this is a side of me I don't usually share, but I think it'd be good for me to be a little vulnerable in this aspect.
I guess, here's my thing I'd like help on, What is the best advice you have and/or the best advice someone has given to you on finding joy that you've lost? I'm not gonna lie, I've been struggling with that recently, and I'd like your help.
Thanks everyone. I look forward to your input.
I've found that being real and telling people on this site how you're actually feeling is really rewarding. It gains trust and I'm much closer to the people I've opened up to. I have no regrets doing so.
I think I get what you're talking about. Last year was a nightmare for me. I think the others have summed it up pretty well, but I'll try to add what I can that hasn't been said yet. Something I've been learning is that it's not really fair to compare who you currently are with how you may have been in the past. You've been through stuff that your past self didn't go through, you have different experience and stuff you now know. I don't think anyone excepts a soldier to come back exactly the same after a war. Although this is less extreme, I think it could be similar to that. Also, just thinking less about yourself and more about the big picture really helps. Like the quote Tigress used to have on her signature that went something like " don't think less of yourself, just think of yourself less." Thinking of others or other things really helps with that. ( So long as they are not related to any problems of your's. ) Other then that it really depends on where your lack of joy is coming from. If it's nothing really in particular and you're just drained maybe it'll just take some time to get through this season?
I can agree on that as well. It's important to be vulnerable about how you feel. (Of course, as a Senior Mod here, I also have to make sure it's safe to say these things so that it doesn't cause any extra trouble in the future, and I can only describe certain issues to an extent)
Interesting perspective on the comparison between my past and my current self. While some comparisons can be made, overall its a progression of change for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment. I think I know where my lack of joy may be coming from, but it'll also feel like a big change that I have to learn to adjust to.
Thanks NFM for your insight. I'll definitely keep these tips in mind.
Alright I will! Since I moved to where I live 5 years ago, I have gotten to know them pretty well. Except one of them retired and there's a new librarian. I used to get 40 books from the library at a time in 8th grade (don't try to reread all of the Baby Sitters Club) and would spend hours there in the summer.
Awesome. Wow, that's pretty cool that you're close with the librarian, even though they switch out sometimes. Oh my goodness. That's the most books I've ever heard of checked out of a library in one trip. I can't even finish one book. (I won't. )
To be fair, this was at point in my life where I didn't play sports and/or didn't have wifi at my house. This year has been the year where I have gone to the library the least.
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I think I confuse the librarians sometimes. 
That's alright. I don't even know my local librarian. 
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That makes sense. Just do what you can to make her feel better even though you don't know what to do. 